Running from Responsibility

A reader of this Blog asked what I would consider an embarrassing question, I'm going to paraphrase it in a completely biased manner, "How can I run away from supporting my children, what countries are out of reach of the FRO?"

What he really asked was, "How far does it go if you leave the country to avoid child support. e.g if you go to Europe or Asia. Will the FRO look for you?"

The FRO won't look for you, that's up to the recipient. They can hire someone to find you and then hand the information to the FRO. Which countries the FRO has an agreement with is another issue, they've got a good grasp on our nation's friends, but...

The real question is, "How on earth can you think of abandoning your child(ren) and your responsibility for child support?"

I know that the system can be hard on you, it's hard on the kids too. Aside from the legalities and the feelings of being trapped, the reality is you have a responsibility. I agree that there are circumstances that might be argued are unfair and would understand your comments, but the whole reason that the majority of those concerned with the FRO and the System that it supports is that people run and shirk their responsibility. It justifies the means of the FRO.

Now, I need to ask... "Why do you want to run away?" You posted anonymously, tell why you figure running is a good idea.

Did someone ask for a petition?

Okay, it's a survey, but... have a look on the right sidebar.

Understanding Parental Alienation

See also: http://familylawcourts.com

Children Heald Hostage on Amazon.com and Chapters/Indigo.

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Part 2

Talking to the FRO...

In light of a few comment I'd received over the last few weeks, some posted here, I thought I'd try to draw attention to the issue with the FRO. I received this response:

2008/9/10 @MCSS-G-DMCMB-MCSSINFO (CSS)

Thank you for your e-mail to the Ministry of Community and Social Services concerning court-ordered child support and fathers who want to be treated fairly.

I appreciate the time you have taken to write. However, the Family Responsibility Office's mandate is to enforce court-ordered child and spousal support obligations.

The issue you raise regarding fathers who want to be treated fairly by the courts with regard to child support falls under the jurisdiction of the Ministry of the Attorney General. You can obtain information on that ministry’s website at http://www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca/english/family/divorce/support/.

You can also write to:

Ministry of the Attorney General
720 Bay Street, 11th Floor
Toronto, Ontario
M5G 2K1
Tel: 416-326-2220
www.attorneygeneral.jus.gov.on.ca/english/feedback.asp

Once again, thank you for writing.

Josh Vandezande

Manager, Correspondence Unit
Ministry of Community and Social Services

Okay then... We'll be following up with the AG. It seems the FRO doesn't accept any responsibility for treating good and responsible fathers like criminals.

Free and Clear... Finally.

I am not gloating or revelling any sort of triumph today, not really, after all it's not a win when you have spent 5 years paying off an unjust debt to your ex-wife in the form of arrears.

If you've read "my story" from my web site (which is down right now and I'll need to move it someplace stable very soon), the judge saddled me with a debt for no apparent reason other than I fought my case cheaper by being more self-sufficient. You could read into it that he felt I was under-employed, but that would suggest he's out of touch with [today's] reality or fundamentally incapable of an unbiased decision, but that wouldn't be very good for a judge, so I'll suggest it was due to legal fees.

Anyway, the point of this is, I'm done. No, not done paying support, but done paying off this arrears. It's not Christmas. No, I didn't wait this year, I thought this was a nice reward for 3+ weeks of time with my kids this summer. I wonder what the next few weeks will bring?

It's a good feeling, being able to look at your savings and know that it's all yours, not on hold or accumulating for someone else's benefit.