From a Father... to the FRO

I appreciate the feedback I get from others on their experiences on the system. I offer you a comment from one father:

The amount that I pay per month on a 4 year old is absurd. One would think that I make 2x what I make. At one point after the FRO stepped in, I lost my job. This establishment is like the mob. Arrears started to accumulate. Letter started arriving. My license was taken from me. Then my passport. Tell me: how am I supposed to get to that interview (the only [interview] that I have had in ages thanks to the economy) that is in a city 100km away? I have no money and no license! Gee the FRO, thanks for looking out for the family. We're all so much better off now that you have stepped in! 

Now I'm working again and all paid up with my arrears – it's part of the equalization after to 3 years in court. Guess what!? I just got a letter from the FRO! My passport was just revoked and my license (fourth time) is gone too! 

It turns out that the judges order that states "there are no monies owing to or from either party" is too vague. That's right. Too vague. 

Thanks FRO.

I really wish the government bodies involved would realize that not ALL fathers are Deadbeats... We really need to make this system less adversarial.

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“The judge even said, if I was paralyzed from the neck down, I would still be responsible for having to earn a million dollars a year.” - Dave Foley [Yankee-Bashing Canadian Comedian Seeks Refuge in… America | NewsReal Blog]

And this is the stupidity of imputed income and the judges that operate in the Ontario Family Court system.

Children Are Not Pawns

Your children are not chess pieces in the life you have after a failed marriage, they are children. You don't play one against your former spouse or make it difficult for them to see that other party. Why, because they are not your property and life is NOT a game.

Some people, such as my ex-wife, are all too ready to call the other parent names, denigrate them or otherwise tarnish the image that your children have for their other parent. They will make up their minds on their own. That said, I would encourage you to ensure that if your son or daughter is unhappy with the other parent, try to help them maintain a positive attitude where possible.